by Matthew Name ©2005; ISBN 0-9725065-3-5, version 1c, Sweeney Publication, ----- Please Stumble my site!
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The gift that is most common and which everyone is capable, is empathy, where you identify with another's emotions . Just try and be around someone who is self-victimizing: this will usually bring anger and disgust into the empath. I think the reason for this is that the true underlying feeling of self-victimization is anger and disgust, disguised in a mess of other feelings. It is often hard for an empath to be sympathetic, because they are actually feeling the other person's pain so severely that they can't be objective. They just want the pain to stop.
you strongly identy with these statements then you're probably a very sensitive empath.
Ever meet people whom you can't help but be happy when you're around them? They seem to always feel good about themselves, and you just seem to catch it?
Ever been engrossed in a book or lost in a project only to have to look up because someone was staring at you — did you feel their stare?
How about having a sense to call someone, only to find out that they had just had something upsetting happen to them and were very happy that you called?
Do you pick your close friends because you feel good when you're around them, and it isn't something you can pinpoint why?
Been sitting somewhere in public waiting for a bus or plane and have someone sit near you, and you had to get up and move for no other reason than they "bothered " you? Or you could just feel the sadness and tragedy in their le.
Ever get really upset or enraged about people or situations that don't really affect you.
Some of us are so empathic that we start processing other peoples feelings as they are our own. Remember the big catch phrase, "boundaries. " In the psychic world this is known as shielding. There is a fine line between empathic and psychotic.
A great example of this produced a mini psychotic break that only lasted a few hours, but pushed me into reading professionally. I had a house mate, Chri s , who wasn't doing anything against me in particular, but his whole le was just driving me crazy. It was as there was no separation between him and me.
One beautul spring day I was outside cleaning the pool. I was ranting and raving, just really going off, I was very angry and a venomous mess. Then I heard a booming voice that said, "This isn't how you feel, this is how Chris feels." Then there was complete peace, all the anger and venom that was coursing through me was gone. It wasn't mine; I had soaked it up and taken it into my own psyche. I was desperately trying to process his stuff.
Chris soon moved out; the house had become very uncomfortable for him when I stopped taking on his emotional burdens. I also noticed when I stopped, it became much easier for me to send him divine love in all his affairs and just be supportive. Instead of me being fear based and controlling, trying to stop this enormous pain I felt.
After this experience, I pay close attention to my feelings and often ask, is this how I feel or is this someone else's? you can relate, you're not crazy! Feelings are contagious; however, we have the ability to decide which ones we're going to catch. We also have the ability to decide which ones we're going to spread. So choose wisely!
Empathy is such a powerful tool of communication, but it often gets a bad rap, mainly because we remember the negative experiences of where empathy has driven us towards psychosis. Or people use it to validate victim behavior.
Instead, we need to remember daily that we make wonderful le affirming decisions based on empathy. Like the time we give someone a call or a gt just because we thought it would brighten their day. We make a commitment of love to someone for no other reason than it feels right! Or we're able to accept someone's amends because on an empathic level we understand and can forgive.
Without empathy, relationships as we know them would not exist.
I think empathy is one of the most used abilities in a reading. you listen to most mediums during readings, they will often use the words, "I feel…" rather than, " I see…" or " I hear…" Clairsentients, whether it's feeling on a physical or an emotional level, is a very powerful ability to develop. It works well whether you're reading a person here in the physical or communicating with someone who is in the spirit plane.
When someone first starts actively developing the abilities to use empathy during readings it usually starts out with statements like, "I feel that there is a being expressing sorrow and loss…" or "I feel there is a celebration of joy…" Later as they develop the gt, it often expands, and one's ability to communicate with the use of empathy becomes very powerful, and clear. This ability allows the empath to receive very complex emotional feelings in the form of communication. Once this empathy becomes strengthened it starts moving and opening up the realm of what many people refer to as 'Knowingness.'
The use and exercise of empathy assists in opening the solar plexus, often referred to as the psychic center of the soul. Once this center opens up, and you're used to receiving information through this center, another type of information starts flooding in: knowingness.
Sometimes during readings, you just know something without analytical thought. This is intuition or what a lot o f people are now referring to as Knowingness. Intuition : "direct perception of truth or fact, independent of any reasoning process." Whenever I ask people to recall a time when they have experienced intuition, they tend to describe vague events. But when I ask them about knowingness, they tend to recall specic times when they just knew something. I think the corporate world has dumbed down the word intuition to such an extent that it no longer has personal reference of psychic phenomenon.
Knowingness or rather intuition is an emotional thought or an emotional knowing. Some have described it as information is uploaded into them like a computer. Think of it this way: the brain is merely the physical processor of the computer, and the mind is the hard drive, where le time memories are stored throughout the etheric body. Knowingness is when the hard drive or etheric body is written to without it being processed by your brain. It appears on the hard drive as someone somewhere else on the network put it there using a dferent processor. The result is you simply know. You don't know how you know, you just do.
Some say knowing is a part of empathy and others claim it isn't. My guides tell me it's an overlap of two separate types of informational flow. When the clairsentience of the solar plexus works with the heart chakra, Knowingness occurs. When the heart and the gut are in harmony there is knowingness.
'Empathy is the precursor to compassion; without your ability to experience and express empathy, your compassion will never reach full expression.' I am paraphrasing, but this is what I have been told by my guides in many dferent ways over the years. That's why it has been very important for me to work on my Shielding and Cleansing.
When I am able to feel other's pains and pleasures without taking them on in any personal fashion, that's when I can read them with proper perspective. This work has allowed me to know which pain is mine and which is others. When I discover others in pain, I can bless them and release them, allowing them to choose their own paths. Not being trapped in someone else's suffering allows me to have compassion for them like never be fore. This is because their suffering no longer means my demise.
I mention the connection of empathy and compassion for a very specic reason: I have seen many empathic people wall themselves off from society and the spiritual plane to avoid great pain and suffering. I count myself amongst this group, and we do this to stop from feeling others pain. But, it inevitably stops all feeling.
Before I realized it, I couldn't really feel anything, and my le didn't change or evolve Time continued to march on without me. When I was able to shield myself from outside sources of pain and concentrate on my own suffering, I was able to go inside and work on my self. I moved through my own painful issues and emerged with a greater awareness of self and better understanding of the world.
Self-acceptance and self-forgiveness made it easier for me to accept and forgive others. Through greater self-love, I'm able to express greater acts of love to others.
I still have anger and rage, but it doesn't dominate my le like it used too. I'm able to release and process it quickly compared to before. I'm far from perfect. I wax and wane with my spiritual growth just like everyone else, but the first step for me is to allow myself to experience my full range of feelings. I can have them and not be in them.
I'm sure that listening to me going off on a rant of rage for twenty minutes, most would be somewhat frightened and concerned. My rants of anger and rage used to last for weeks, months, even ye ars. Seriously, in my family resentments last decades. I was taught that self-righteous anger is well... a right. Looking at that in a humorous way ha s made it easier to get past and release it. I can have gr eat Joy without that anger.
Le is a journey, and as soon as I wall myself up and build a fortress, the journey stops. Making a choice to walk through the pain is the first step to continue the journey. As the saying goes, ' pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. ' It takes a commitment to keep going even when the road turns painful. That means no stuffing my emotions with TV, cigarettes, alcohol, sex or other tools of avoidance. I have to have them only long enough to walk through them. Just long enough to release the fear and find the gratitude.
you only get one thing from this book, please get this, "A loving compassionate world starts with you." Some of you may wonder what this has to do with spirit communication? In my opinion, spiritual communication isn't leading to a more loving compassionate world, you're talking to the wrong spirits, and reading the wrong book.